40 Daily Questions for Couples to Answer Together

The best questions for couples are not the deep ones. They are the small ones that get you talking about your day, your memories and what you want next. Here are forty, grouped by theme.

How to use them

Answer on your own first, without reading your partner's answer. Then reveal together. Answering separately keeps the answers honest, and the reveal is where the conversation starts. You do not need to answer every question. One a day, or one a week, is plenty.

Everyday life

1. What was the best part of your day?
2. What is one thing that made you smile this week?
3. What is something small I did recently that you appreciated?
4. What is a habit of mine that you secretly like?
5. What would make your next weekend feel restful?

Memories

6. What is your favorite memory of us?
7. What was your first impression of me?
8. What is a song that reminds you of us?
9. What is the funniest thing that has happened to us together?
10. Where did we have our best day out?

Dreams and plans

11. Where would you like us to be in five years?
12. What is one trip you want to take together?
13. What is a skill you would like to learn, and would you learn it with me?
14. If money were no issue, what would our next year look like?
15. What is something you have always wanted to try?

Fun and play

16. What is your ideal date, from start to finish?
17. Would you rather cook together or go out to eat?
18. What is a movie you would happily watch again with me?
19. What is a silly tradition you would like us to start?
20. If we had a free day tomorrow, what would we do first?

Connection

21. When do you feel most close to me?
22. What is something you wish I asked you more often?
23. What makes you feel loved, even on a hard day?
24. Is there something you have been meaning to tell me?
25. How can I support you this week?

Gratitude

26. What is one thing you are grateful for about us?
27. Who has taught you the most about love?
28. What is a quality in me that you admire?
29. What is a moment you were proud of me?
30. What is something about our relationship you want to protect?

The future together

31. What does home mean to you?
32. How do you want to celebrate our next anniversary?
33. What is one goal we could work on together this season?
34. What kind of friends do you want us to have in five years?
35. What is a tradition you would like us to keep for life?

Little things

36. What is your favorite food we have eaten together?
37. What is a place you feel most relaxed?
38. What is your go-to comfort show or film?
39. What is one thing you would like more of in our week?
40. What is a question you wish someone would ask you?

Frequently asked questions

How many questions should we answer each day? One is enough. Most couples do better with one good question than with a long list.

What if my partner does not want to answer? Start with an easy question, and answer first yourself. Sharing first makes it easier for them to join in.

Is there an app for this? Duotone sends one question a day to both partners on iPhone. Each of you answers on your own, and the answers are revealed together. Other couples apps offer daily prompts too, so pick the one that feels right for you.